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James Frank Dobie was born in Live Oak County, Texas in 1888. He was a writer who focused on folklore. He once wrote…

“There are just three essentials to a good story; humanity, a point, and the storyteller.”

Between 2005 and 2015 podcasts were likely to go just 12 episodes before fading. Since then I’m fairly certain the number of episodes before podfading has shrunk. Stick-to-it-ive-ness strikes almost every human endeavor. Including podcasting, which is largely a platform for digital storytelling. Starting is easy. Staying with it isn’t.

Why do so many podcasters quit?

Why do so many people quit anything?

Because quitting is easier than sticking around.

Because the focus required to have a point in a story is the focus required to make a go of something. Anything. Like that friend who rambles when telling a story…he hops down every bunny trail all along the way. It exhausts us. It distracts us from whatever point he may be hoping to make.

“Lack of direction, not lack of time, is the problem. We all have twenty-four hour days.”           ― Zig Ziglar

I regularly catch myself asking people to go back in a conversation. They begin to tell a story when some point of the story reminds them of a detour, which they happily take. Minutes later I say, “What about that first story you started telling? What happened?” To which they’ll respond, “Oh, yeah…” and then continue to finish that first story.

We all struggle with focus…some more than others.

Staying on point is one thing. Having a point is something else. But both share the same DNA.

Time management is always popular. Largely ineffective, but popular.

How did you spend the last week?

What did you do with the 168 hours of last week?

It wasn’t last week, but it was a couple of weeks ago – Rhonda and I took a trip. A getaway. To our favorite place for such retreats, Hot Springs Village, Arkansas. I love it so much I decided to do a podcast about the place almost a year ago – Hot Springs Village Inside Out.

There’s a particular place in Louisiana we enjoy going to just get away, too. And like this favorite place in Arkansas, it’s not a place with much excitement or a long list of things to do if you’re looking for exciting nightlife or high-level entertainment (whatever that may be). The fact is, Rhonda and I are not attracted to such places.

There’s some history in both areas. A few plantations to see in Louisiana. Old southern live oak trees to marvel. Imagination to spark at how difficult life must have been for the slaves of early America. Gangster legacies in Arkansas. Miles of trails. Waterfalls. Big, big trees.

Stroll the grounds of old Louisiana plantations and see how the slaves lived. Well, more accurately try to imagine how they lived. I remarked to my wife on our last trip, “Our very worst day is vastly better than their very best day.” It’s not hard to be grateful in those moments. Focus was easy as I looked around a place I had visited before – and where I had always had similar thoughts. Thoughts of how hard life once was in early America. Thoughts of how even the plantation owner’s family endured a harder life than the average American does today. And slaves? Well, it’s unimaginable to me how tough life was.

Getting away from our routine can do this for us. Focus us. Help us concentrate on things that may be more important than the seemingly urgent matters that often consume us.

While on a Louisiana trip I did a podcast via my iPad – something I never do, but it was my only option at the time. It was another podcast I was doing at the time with a co-host. In the episode, which had a thanksgiving theme, we talked briefly about how as we approach a new year, people resolve to accomplish various things. Most will fail. They’ll give up. I admitted that an ongoing challenge for me is focus. Specifically, narrowing down the focus on business ideas. I tend to have too many mental irons in the fire and it’s problematic until I finally ditch some and get very narrow in my intentions. I almost always do figure it out, but only after a considerable amount of wasted time. Some argue I’m not wasting time, but rather taking the time to figure it out. I think they’re being kind because it doesn’t feel as much like “figuring it out” as it does not being as disciplined as I’d like to be. Not focused.

The temptation is to go broad thinking that’s the best path for an opportunity. It’s that whole “leaving our options open” thing. Some promote the notion of “just say YES.” There’s magic, they tell us, in saying, “Yes.” True.

Years ago I joked with friends, when I first started doing consulting and coaching, that I needed to just wear a sandwich board sign – you know, the kind you see from historical pictures of sidewalk promotions where front and back signs are hawking some retail store. My sign, I joked, should say, “Anything for a buck!” 😉

It speaks to how many of us behave though. We’re chasing generalities, not specifics. But I agree there’s power in saying yes to opportunities.

There’s also magic in saying, “No!” I could make a strong case that the power of saying, “No!” could likely more easily best saying, “Yes!”

There’s a line from novelist Elmore Leonard that I rather love.

“My most important piece of advice to all you would-be writers: When you write, try to leave out all the parts readers skip.”
― Elmore Leonard

Which prompted my memory of another good quote.

Focusing is about saying No.”   ― Steve Jobs

Jobs was right. It is about what we reject. Good writing is about what’s left out, not what’s included. Good art and good music…same thing.

Every block of stone has a statue inside it and it is the task of the sculptor to discover it.       – Michelangelo

It was the elimination of the marble that gave us Michelangelo’s David.

The elimination of other things gives us focus. 

Sounds easy, but it’s not. This is why focus is tough for many of us.

Sometimes I feel like that little kid on Sixth Sense. Everywhere I look I see opportunities. No, they’re not all created equally, but many of them seem worthy of some consideration. There’s an acid test that kicks in though. Eventually. Time.

What I stay focused on grows. More often than not.

I don’t often quit too soon. If anything, I likely don’t quit soon enough. Especially when the endeavor involves others. I’ll lean into keeping the thing going in hopes things may gain traction. Usually, they don’t because over time I realize I have a vision and ambition that may not be congruent with whoever I’m working alongside. It happens. But I love the relationships and the promise that something special might happen as the result of our work together.

Some things bore me so I move on. Other things don’t bore me so I hang with them longer. The things that linger through whatever thick and thin may happen, tend to get a renewed and deeper focus.

Or is it the other way around?

Maybe so.

Maybe I’m pushing more time to some things and less time for others. Does time move focus or does focus move time? In my life, it seems to work both ways. At the same time.

Fear plays a role.

Fear of missing out. Fear of losing out. Fear of failure. They’re all in play.

We have 8 irons in the fire because we think it’ll improve our odds of getting one hot one. Fear of missing out on a hot iron.

Fear of losing out on an iron that would get hot if only we put it in the fire. So we put as many in the fire as we can.

Fear of not having a hot iron. Thinking more is better, improving our odds.

It sounds wise, but it’s not. Not only is it foolish, but it’s also stupid.

I once had a business acquaintance famous for saying, “I’ve scratched every itch I’ve had.” He even told my now-grown son, who was a teenager at the time, “Unlike your dad, who is a rock steady guy, I’ve scratched every itch I ever had.” Some people can’t resist scratching every itch. Others of us don’t have that many itches. Still others don’t scratch every itch they have.

Lots of irons in the fire can work for some, but history and experience have shown me that it’s extremely rare. In fact, I can’t think of a single instance where I’ve seen it work, but I may be overlooking some.

Specificity works. And it requires the elimination of other things. Even worthwhile things.

When Tom Peters and Bob Waterman wrote “In Search Of Excellence,” we were introduced to a phrase that Tom Peters would commonly use in his public presentations, a phrase in the book.

“Mono-maniac on a mission”

We see it over and over again. A person with the single-minded pursuit of a dream, a goal – an ideal outcome.

The challenge is we often see highly accomplished people pursuing multiple endeavors. Think Elon Musk. Tesla is THE thing, but then there’s Space X and more than a handful of other endeavors. Underachievers and ordinary folks pursuing greater success can look at that and conclude, “See, the path forward is to be involved in many things. Multiple streams of income and all that.” Just Google “multiple streams of income” and you’ll get recommendations on all kinds of books, videos, and courses on how it’s THE path toward financial prosperity.

What we’re not told is that most achievements and success happened because the person was a mono-maniac on a mission. When that mission achieved success, the other pursuits erupted. Because of the success of that first endeavor. We may incorrectly assume that success was the result of multiple streams of income when the multiple streams of income were mostly the result of success in a single pursuit.

Sometimes I ponder this question too much (mostly in the context of professional pursuits) –

What do I want to be known for?

We’re all going to be known for something. Not a long list of somethings. Henry Ford is noted for Ford. Edison for electricity. Getty for oil. Jobs for Apple. Gates for Microsoft. Michael Dell for Dell. What about you? What about me?

Specialization works. It demands we avoid generalization. Being well-rounded sounds like the way to go. We incorrectly assume specialization means eliminating being well-rounded. Not so. It just means going deeper into something specific. You experience this already. If you’re a sports fan you likely have a favorite sport – one you know more deeply than the others. If you’re a history buff you likely have some favorite time period. We’re all acquainted with going from a broad topic to a more narrow portion of that same topic. Specific.

College students do it when they declare a major and earn a specific degree. Sure, some earn multiple degrees simultaneously, but that’s not the norm. And mostly, their degrees tend to be somewhat closely related. If not, it’s likely they earned the degrees at different times so they could focus on one specific subject at a time.

In 2017 I recorded this video entitled, “Too Many Irons In The Fire: Going From Start To Finish.” It’s a video-only presentation (there is no audio).

Years ago an article appeared on Inc. magazine’s website entitled, Successful People Answer A Question Which Most People Are Afraid To Even Ask.

I want you to stop and imagine the unthinkable; you’ve just found out that you only have 24 hours to live. There are no second opinions needed. In 24 hours you’ll cease to exist in this mortal plane. Let that sink in for a minute.

Now, imagine that you are going to write your own eulogy and in it is the following closing sentence, “Of all the things [your name] did, the one thing that s/he was absolutely more committed to than any one else was __________.”

What would you fill in the blank with?

One caveat, for the purpose of this exercise you cannot include being a parent, spouse, son, daughter, etc. Each of those is absolutely important to have at the top of your list. But, for the sake of this exercise, let’s agree that you are all of those things. What I’m looking for is something even deeper, something on which even the success of your most personal relationships was built upon.

That statement expressing the one thing to which you were most committed speaks of your focus. It’s deeper than that though. Much deeper. Which is why it’s a hard question for most of us because it has a comparison element.

What’s the one thing you’re absolutely more committed to than anyone else?

Than anybody else? Is that even possible? There’s the rub. Most of us can’t fathom being committed to something more than anybody else. That depth and intensity of focus is hard to comprehend.

Here’s how the author concluded the article…

Coming up with a good answer to the question is tall order, isn’t it? Again, I said at the outset that this would be uncomfortable.

I can tell that you want to push back. Well, if you’re doubtful of ever coming up with an answer then you either aren’t trying hard enough or you’ve already let yourself off the hook. If it’s the latter then there’s little I can do to get you to buy into your unique core competency; welcome to the mass of mediocrity, which far too many people are comfortably inhabiting.

That’s exactly why successful people often have an answer; they’ve been forced into the discomfort of having to answer it. Only by doing that have they been able to pull away from the complacency of the crowd. Success demands an answer.

What I can tell you, unequivocally, is that one of the greatest sources of personal growth comes from answering that question and identifying what it is that your unique past and pathology have prepared you for, and then dedicating yourself to being the absolute best at whatever that is.

Will that guarantee that you’ll end up being the best at it? Of course not. But what it does guarantee is that you’ll be better off than the overwhelming majority of people who have never thought to even ask.

You have to discriminate.

You have to leave things out. You have to say, “No” to some things. Maybe many things.

Vetting these things is tough because we’re not discriminating against things that don’t interest us. Or things we could care less about. We’re having to wrestle with things – many things – that we’re interested in. Now we have to measure the degree of interest. Which ones do we care more about? Which ones do we care slightly less about? The quantification game isn’t often fun. It is necessary though.

Worry. Fear.

These 2 things hamper our ability to properly discriminate.

What if we get it wrong?

What if we quit something too soon?

What if we rob ourselves of success in something?

What if we’re wrong in thinking narrow is better? What if many irons in the fire are the right approach?

Self-delusion is so easy we don’t need to be super salesman. We can convince ourselves of false truths with little effort. As we listen to our inner voice we begin to question one thing, then another, then another until we get stuck. Paralyzed by maintaining a tight grip on every option, every choice or every whatever-it-is.

I’ve seen it for decades in business building. Entrepreneurs or would-be entrepreneurs wrestle with a wide variety of ideas. Frequently they just won’t narrow them down. They’re afraid if they commit to one, then they’ll neglect some opportunities that might occur in another one. They don’t want to turn loose of any of their ideas. As a result, they’re like that proverbial monkey reaching into a jar to grab the peanut. They won’t let go…so they’re stuck with a jar on their hand. Unable to pull the peanut out to eat it. Unable to let go for fear they’ll lose the peanut. Stuck. In every sense of the word.

One small move helps us get past the fear, worry, and anxiety. The challenge is to stop long enough to get in touch with ourselves. Long enough to ask, “What am I feeling right now?” Then to ask, “Why?”

Follow the money. That’s what “Deep Throat” – that secret informant to the Washington Post reporters investigating the Watergate fiasco – advised. Follow the money. They did and sure enough, they unearthed the truth that led to the resignation of President Nixon.

We need to follow the fear. Why would we do that? Because that’s where the focus is. More importantly, that’s where the action happens.

If there’s anything more fearful than fear it’s following fear. We’d rather avoid fear. Run from it. Hide from it. Anything but face it. That temporary respite we get when we refuse to face it disappears quickly though. Hiding from our fear is the best thing we can do to increase our fear. If you want to grow fear, run from it. Turn around and you’ll see it’s getting bigger by the minute. Stop, turn around and run toward it and watch it shrink.

Here’s the thing…you’re not unarmed. You’ve got the weapons necessary to defeat fear. They’re the same weapons that empower the fear to grow, too. Your thoughts.

I’m an overthinker. In recent years I’ve learned one of the primary reasons for it – I’m independent. Creatively so. I’m wired to look for solutions. Put it all together and I can gear up in overthinking a million ways to make it work. Or to make it work better. Before you know it I may be leaning into what would be a strength too much – so much it becomes a weakness. A BIG weakness.

Fear can grow when that cycle beings.

The solution? Get quiet. Silence the noise in my head that starts the cycle. Recognize that I’m looking for better solutions instead of taking action. Opt-out of thinking and opt-in on doing. Realizing that while I’m taking action I can (and naturally will) adapt. I’ll iterate all along the way and it’ll only speed up my problem-solving abilities. By going slower I can go much, much faster.

Fooling ourselves is the game we need to avoid.

Spreading our schedule too thin is something else we must avoid if we want to hit the land of high achievement.

Keep doing what you’ve always done and you’ll always get what you’ve always got. But that’s the best-case scenario. You may not be able to achieve as much as you once did if you keep doing the plate spinning routine of scratching every itch.

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It’s impossible to completely separate some areas of our lives from others. Are you good at compartmentalizing things? You know, not letting one thing or area of your life disrupt another area? It can be hard. I’m decent at it, but I’m far from world-class. Honestly, I worry a little bit about folks who can flip switches and just go about their business – either at home or work – as though everything is fine.

Let me explain. Throughout my life I’ve encountered quite a few people – some professionally and some personally – who’ve had some pretty tragic things happen. As a people watcher and observer, I’m often fascinated and puzzled by the person who can suffer tragedy in one area of their life, but in another area act as though everything is fine. It’s weird to me. That goes way beyond compartmentalizing something, but let’s talk about that – compartmentalizing.

When I compartmentalize something I’m able to not let that thing – something tragic, perhaps – not creep into a place where it doesn’t belong. Let me give you two examples that may help you understand. The first example involves personal and work. I had what must have been a gall bladder attack over 10 years ago. It’s the only time it’s ever happened to me. We were at church and the afternoon service was about to begin. Suddenly, I got a sharp pain at the top of my stomach and began to feel sick. Not throw up sick, but breaking out into a cold sweat kind of sick. I told my wife I was going to go to the rest room and I got up. By the time I got to the back where the restrooms are located, I was feeling terrible. I went into the restroom shed my suit jacket, ripped off my tie and unbuttoned the top 3 buttons of my shirt. I was pouring sweat. No nausea or anything else…just this pain and profuse sweating. She rushed me to the ER. I couldn’t keep my legs from pumping. The nurse asked me to describe the pain on a 10 point scale. I told her, “I don’t know. A 3 or so.” The ER nurse said, “Look at him he’s writhing in pain. A three?” I remember thinking, “So this is what writhing is.” Man, alive. I was sick as a dog. I wasn’t in any kind of shape to answer a quiz, even if it was about how I was feeling.

Fast forward a bit and they’ve given me enough pain medicine to knock down an elephant (at least that’s what they told my wife). I’m very resistant to pain medication. I’m laying there, legs still pumping and my cell phone rang. My wife reports that I instantly answered it in my normal voice and carried on some brief conversation with the person calling, never telling them I was in the ER writhing in pain. See, I told you I know how to compartmentalize! Okay, you want a better example? Let’s try a professional example.

I’ve encountered many people issues. Sometimes leaders can see a single problem and assume there’s something systemic going on. It’s a pretty common response. I don’t suffer that very much. Just because there’s a problem with a person in one department doesn’t mean there’s a problem with everybody in the department. I once experienced a serious honesty breach with a manager. All the evidence pointed to the facts: a) he was guilty of this infraction, b) he was acting alone and c) he’d been doing it for much longer than I’d like to admit. I didn’t have a hard time seeing it for what it was – an isolated act of betrayal by one employee. Weeks of quiet investigation didn’t lead me to any other conclusions. In time, I handled the problem and terminated the employee.

I know business people who would have easily thought this was a wider spread problem. I didn’t because I had no evidence that it went beyond this one employee. That’s what I mean by compartmentalizing.

Why is that subject important? Because I’d like you to think about your life, your behavior. I’ve seen 3 basic types of people:

1) the people who compartmentalize with some magical switch where they can completely disconnect one area of life with other areas,

2) the people like me who are able to compartmentalize based on the situation and circumstance and

3) the people who can’t compartmentalize at all.

I’d sum up these three groups like this: 1) those who can completely compartmentalize, 2) those who can do it sometimes and 3) those who never can.

I bring this all up because today’s show is really about selfishness. It’s about the times that we’re to blame and there’s nobody else within spitting distance! It’s truly our fault and we need to own it. So what in the Sam Hill does our ability to compartmentalize have to do with this? Maybe nothing. I just wanted to sound smart. Well that ship sailed decades ago. Actually, it does have something to do with it because I’ve stumbled onto something through the years. The most selfish among us – and sometimes that’s US because selfishness may not be a way of life, but it can overtake any of us, sometimes – struggle to compartmentalize very much. The most selfish people I know refuse to exercise themselves (discipline is likely a better verb) in compartmentalizing. One glitch in one area of life derails them across the board. They drag their personal garbage to work. They drag their work garbage home. It’s just a big bowl of selfish gumbo!

Whose fault is it? Or does it matter? 

Let’s talk about it.

Everybody’s somebody someday.

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By the 1990s cell phones had become more commonplace. Never mind that they’d been invented for almost 2 decades by then. I don’t remember when caller ID disrupted our phone usage, but it was a phenomenal development for me. “Wait a minute, what? I can know who is calling before I pick it up?” This is great!

Quickly, caller ID became a psychological barometer of sorts. It became my gauge for whether or not a person was helpful or harmful. Whether this incoming call was from somebody I really wanted to hear from or whether it was from somebody I dreaded interacting with.

Some months ago I did an episode entitled, Are You Helping Or Harming? That’s not a recent question for me. I was sitting in a classroom in LSU wishing I was anywhere, but here – and longing to see Rhonda, who was about 11 hours up the highways in Ft. Worth – pondering that question as an 18 or 19-year-old. A professor provoked it. An arrogant, show-off psych professor who was entertaining, but quite the opposite of helpful.

His classroom was large and on the opposite side of the campus from any other class I had. No problem. I rode a bike to classes. From the first day of class when he informed the guys that they could bring him alcohol if they wanted to improve their grades to a statement that would surely get a professor fired today – “and you girls, well, you know what you can do.” I instantly disliked him, but I loved the subject – psychology. Credit goes to him though for prompting my question, “Are you helping or harming?” He was doing both, simultaneously. In spite of it all, I enjoyed the class because I was then, and still am, very interested in psychology.

I’m also still intrigued by the choices people make that are dramatically opposed to one another. The man who can lavish affection and admiration on a woman he professes to love, then put his hands violently on her. The person who can whisper sweet nothings in one ear and profanely cuss into the ear of another. But aren’t we all capable of it? I suspect we are.

As curious as that behavior may be the more puzzling behavior to me is the person filled with such hubris they lack empathy. People who are consistently harmful, but don’t know it because they think you – and the rest of the world – can’t possibly survive without their advice, criticism, and judgment. I’m unabashedly aware of my stupidity and ignorance. But I’m equally aware of my high degree of curiosity and my even higher degree of empathy. So much so that’s it can be a problem for me. Asking stupid questions was never really a challenge for me because learning was more important than appearing smart or knowledgeable. Actually knowing beats appearing like I know. This is why, in part, I’m put off by people who know everything about everything. I’ve found people who don’t seek understanding are the most critical people. I’ve been “blessed” to have a handful of such people enter my life — and in most cases, I’ve frantically set about to get myself out of their sphere. Two such people occupied my life longer than I might have liked, but it couldn’t be helped. So it goes.

I still use that caller ID test whenever I gauge whether or not I’m willing to allow somebody into my life – or how deeply I’m willing to let them in. If the caller ID shows a person’s name and number, how do I feel? Am I excited to talk with them? Then I likely am willing to devote myself to that relationship. Do I dread talking with them? Then I’m not willing to advance the relationship, and I’m likely looking for ways to distance myself from them if I can. It’s a test that so far hasn’t failed me.

This is the wall at the entrance to The Yellow Studio. That sign in the middle was a gift from somebody who knows me well. 😉 “Everyone brings joy to this office…some when they enter. Others when they leave.”

I know there are people who have negative feelings about me. I’m completely good with it because I determined as a young man that I’d resolve whatever problems I could with others. Sometimes you just can’t though. As Ben Shapiro recently observed about the Joe Rogan and Spotify drama, (words to the effect), “…you offer them an olive branch and they’ll break it and beat you with it.” Yeah, I’ve had that happen. I’ll bet you have, too.

I’ll take multiple attempts to patch things up, then I’ll move on respecting somebody’s right to ignore or refuse. I don’t have to live with their choices, but I do have to live with my own. Sure, it’s painful when I feel like I was wrong – quite frequently that’s the case – but we all have free choice. And I refuse to commit myself – knowingly – to pushing water up a hill.

The real focus here is presence. Sharing space with others. Sharing time with them. Having direct interaction with them. Physically. Virtually. On the phone. In person. On social media. In email. I’m including any interaction with another person.

Think of a person whose presence you crave. When you think of them you think of how great the interaction will be. They’ll be engaging, interested and the interaction will be easy. Their presence makes your life better. Such people can make your entire day. The good feelings you get when you’re with them might even extend days beyond your time together.

Think of a person whose presence frustrates you. When you think of them you think of how great the interaction could be if only they’d focus on engaging you. But they don’t. Maybe they call you on the phone and you answer, “Hello” – only to never speak again. 😉 Every interaction is fully about them. And you’re not that important because they may consistently need to hang up, promising to call you back – but they never do! And they called YOU. 😀 There are many, many categories of these folks – the frustrating folks who you don’t mind hearing from, but you know, with certainty, how the interaction will go! These folks are always predictable!

Think of a person whose presence had an ill effect on you. When you think of them you think of how you’d rather be poked in the eye with a red hot poker than interact with them. The reasons for your feelings aren’t important. I’ve already given you a few of my reasons, but there are many more.

Let’s keep playing this game with a focus on that sign here Inside The Yellow Studio.

It’s just the other viewpoint. We can think of how we feel when people contact us or interact with us. Now, let’s ponder how we feel when they leave us. When our interaction with them is over.

The people you crave – those whose presence you find uplifting or rewarding in some way – you likely have some sadness, disappointment or some similar feeling when the interaction stops. When somebody you love very much leaves, or you leave them – it’s not fun. It’s a dreaded moment. I experienced many of those when I was dating Rhonda long-distance. I’d drive all night arriving around 6 am on Saturday. Then I’d leave in the early afternoon the next day after we went to church services Sunday morning. We barely had 24 hours being in the same vicinity – and we probably had about 14 hours of actually being present with each other. Then it was back into the car and heading down the highway. A long, arduous, lonely drive spent conniving when I might be able to do it all again! So it goes when you have to leave the presence of somebody you love. Somebody you enjoy being around.

That’s not quite how it goes when you finally get away from somebody whose company you dread. You can’t wait to get away. And if possible, you avoid being in their company at all.

It’s a bit like the energy management we all have. Some of us are introverts. Our energy is drained whenever we’re around too many people too long. Meanwhile, the extroverts among us increase their energy when they’re in social situations with lots of people. Their energy is drained if they’re deprived of that interaction. Too much time alone drains their energy.

Presence and absence. Energy given. Energy drained. That’s really what we’re talking about. But there’s another unlying point – which type of person are we?

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Yes, it’s about wisdom because our lives are surrounded by and largely dictated by technology. From cell phones, to live streaming TV, to tablets, to laptops, desktops. Then there’s tech in our cars (okay, maybe your car…mine is so old I don’t have much tech, and that suits me fine).

It’s a different episode today, prompted by an Apple iMac problem that has beleaguered me for the past few months.

Here are a couple of links you may want to check out:

How I podcast Inside The Yellow Studio now

There are some additional resources on my support page, too

Enjoy!

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The Bodeans have been around a while. Since the mid-80s. In 1993 they came out with a record whose first track was the song, Closer To Free. Ironically, that song became the group’s biggest hit even though it was part of an album the group decided to make for themselves. Tired of chasing hits, they figured they’d focus on the music they loved most. The result was that T Bone Burnett produced the album, Go Down Slow. I’m the guy who has every BoDeans record.

I listen to them regularly and some time back I started thinking about this particular song, Closer To Free.

For years I’ve listened to this song, but a few years ago when project Craving Encouragement bubbled to the surface, I made note of the one line in particular – everybody wants a good good friend. Begging the question, “What is a good good friend?”

What do you think?