I was a kid, but it still struck me funny when an old person would exclaim, “I remember it the way it should have been.” Re-writing history is a time honored tradition of old people. I should know…now that I’m old. 😉
Today’s show, like so many, could go in so many directions. We’ll just have to see how it goes. My hope is that it goes well. And if it doesn’t, then I’m going to choose to remember this show for how it should have gone!
Maybe you’ve never done it literally, but you’ve certainly done it – drawn a line in the sand. It’s an indication that you’ll go no further than a certain point. You’re drawing a line in the sand to establish a boundary you won’t cross. Drawing a circle in the sand is a similar thing I suppose, except it indicates we’re surrounding ourselves with this boundary. We’re drawing a circle around ourselves in the sand to indicate we’re going to protect ourselves with whatever boundary we’re establishing. That circle is our boundary. Or it’s how we’re determining we’re going to live. Inside the circle represents the life we’ve designed. Outside the circle represents what we don’t want in our life.
When you’ve drawn your circle in the sand you’ve declared the space – an area – that is where you’ll live. It’s the space that defines you. The area where you’ll take your stand. But let’s back up because there’s a considerable amount of work that goes into life before the drawing begins. It’s the really hard part of defining the circle you want to draw.
“The old (or whole) world will fight you till your dying day.” What is YOUR old world? And yes, the whole world will fight you ’til your dying day because the world – and people – want what they want. You’ve got to protect your own life.
It can be anything really. It can be what others expect of you. It can be what you expect of yourself, reasonable or unreasonable.
“We demand rigidly defined areas of doubt and uncertainty!” ― Douglas Adams,
Which also means we really want rigidly defined areas of no doubt and no uncertainty. And if the areas of doubt and uncertainty are outside the circle drawn in the sand, then inside the circle are the defined areas of no doubt and no uncertainty. And these are both insanely hard areas to find.
The older I grow the more aware I am that who we were as children can stay with us. For some of us, it remains more deeply. Gluing us to a place and time that doesn’t ideally serve us. Go back and listen to the previous episode. Getting past our past can be the most powerful, but daunting work of our lives.
Let’s see where the conversation takes us as together we work on drawing our own circle in the sand…then work even harder to protect that circle.
Luke 9:62, “But Jesus said unto him, No man, having put his hand to the plow, and looking back, is fit for the kingdom of God.”
This isn’t about being introspective. Or about not doing a post-mortem on our choices and actions to see what we can learn. Both activities are necessary if we’re going to lean more toward wisdom.
It’s about being burdened with the past in a way that prevents us from moving forward. Stuck in the past.
Lots of people struggle to move past their past. It gets lots of verbiage. Empty advice that’s well intended. Things like, “Get over it.” Brilliant! And my all-time favorite (and yes, one I often use), “Build a bridge and get over it.”
Truth is, sometimes we’re not able to build the bridge from our past, much less to get over that bridge.
Let’s get the elephant in the room acknowledged right off the bat. The title of today’s show is sorta like those words of empty advice, but we need context. The positive message is solid – keep moving forward. Don’t focus on what’s behind. Keep growing, keep improving.
So never ain’t really never.
Those who cannot remember the past are condemned to repeat it. – George Santayana
Are we to never look behind us for learning? Is there nothing behind us that can teach us valuable lessons to help us move forward?
Today’s show is about these and other vexing questions and challenges. Enjoy!